Pretend. World. Fairy. Land.
Some friends pretend to be friends, but a true friend sticks closer than a brother. Proverbs 18:24 (CJB)
As a child, many have played pretend games – it was part of growing up and discovering the world around us. Maybe pretending to ride a horse. Or pretending to have a tea party with lots of friends. Pretending that you lived in a castle.
In our world today, we have many people who never grew up – they are still living in a pretend world. Pretending to have friends. Lots of friends.
Facebook. Pretend. World. I see some people who have thousands of friends on Facebook. I can’t help but think – “Do they really have that many friends?”
As I was reading from God’s Word this morning, I came across the above Scripture. It made me stop and think – “How many people are still living in a pretend world? Pretending to have lots and lots of friends?”
The world of pretend has penetrated into the real world. So much so that many no longer know the difference between pretend and real.
True friendships started out building trust – little by little – story by story. Calling out by calling out.
In friendship, you begin with trust and then you are transformed by truth-telling. All the trust in the world will not transform you if there is no truth-telling.
Another Scripture that comes to mind is found in Proverbs 27:17:
As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend. (NLT)
Iron sharpening iron. It is a Scripture used in Christian settings – in church – a Bible Study, and yet, how many truly understand the meaning of that term?
In simple terms – what sharpens iron? Heat and force. You start with heat because heat is what makes metal malleable (moldable). Force is what moves it once the heat has been added.
In true friendships, we need the same things: heat and force. Heat is trust. It is the sense of being known – accepted – loved. Force is the truth. It is when we allow another to speak into our lives the hard things – to call you out. It brings about transformation in our lives.
True Friendship doesn’t happen without the heat and force – trust and truth.
To grow up and leave the pretend world, we need transforming friendships.
A pretend world is okay as a child – but when we are adults it is time to put aside childish ways and grow up into the person that God created us to be.
1 Corinthians 13:11: When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. (NIV)
What world are you living in right now? Is it time to start looking for true friends? Ones who are willing to call you out? Ones who truly care about you and love you?